2nd Aug, 2007:
I have taken one of the most defining and memorable decision of my life. My saying that i like someone would be an understatement. Actually, I idolize someone and would like to spend my entire life being with him. I just cant imagine myself being with someone else now. However, I am quite sure (sadly though) that it’s not going to be a cakewalk.
I belong to a small place called Patna( bihar). My parents are extremely conservative, just like local bihari crowd and they cant imagine their daughter getting married to someone out of their caste. Today, after much ado I decided to disclose my secret with my elder brother. While speaking to him I literally started crying. Later on, he had a word with mom-dad and good round of scolding from her side. Later on mom called me and the arguments, tears, abuse continued…
I don’t want to hurt anyone but I guess, I can’t have best of both the world. In this process someone is definitely gonna hurt. I have taken a stand and I want to remain stick to it. There are only a handful of people in my life I can bank upon at the time of crisis. He is my pillar of strength, my backbone and my best friend. I cant lose him just like that. He is the one with whom I can share anything. I can be his kid, his darling, his mother, his sweetheart all at the same time and he is one of the most understanding soul I have ever met.
I LOVE HIM & I GUESS HE WORTH THIS FIGHT.….
GUYS! WISH ME LUCK…..
8 comments:
all the best .....
Abhay
well there would be nobody than me to comment on that blog...There are sometimes when your heart chokes with so much emotions that..your words are limited to express your emotional ecstasy ....
So in short my Lady, I am proud, excited, and honoured of you being part of life. And together shall we overcome all struggles...
Love you
Best of luck !!
Sadha Khush Raho.
From,
the same anonymous :)
I m sooooo very Happy n very best of luck to u in life!!!!
hi......
i know these decison are bold and tough...but there are another angle of this view...a small town parent sends her daughter to go out in a bigger city,they had big expectation with her....their future rest with their daughters future...
You are taking a decision..which goes against them..their all hope are shattered....its tough for them...dont turn selfish...look from their point of view...they have earn a reputation,which will be shattered in one go...
i dont dout your decison but you are part of them...make them also a part this decision...convince them....
i am speaking slightly baised bec. i am also from bihar...i know all socal structure there...
care for them bec. they are the person who are has and going to stand by u in all your problem....
think well...bec...one move can change every thing.....bank on them ,on whom you have always banked.....
First of all, I would like to say that i prefer not to talk to any anonymous person as there are so many known people around.
Btw, what you said is absolutely right. I am not going to leave my parents alone shattered. But iwill not lose him either for a stupid reason that he is not a bihari. I will fight with them to get their approval. whatever time it may take we are ready to wait.
I know my decision can sound selfish but we have to break this vicious circle. We have to grow out of this caste system, state system nd religion system. We all have to understand that we are human first and there can be no greater insult than denying a person any opportunity due to the accident of his birth.
Dont worry, they are my parents and i care for them more than u do but come what may, I am not ready to take a decision which i will regret for entire life.
regards.
i want to tell tht ur parents will choose d best guy 4 u cos the love you. They hv seen world 4 more than 50 yrs.Ur experience is nothing comparison to them. Just think of ur yonger brother/sister what will happen to them. i m frm Bokaro so i kho patna. Thats why i m saying ths. rest all depend upon u.
Hi Aditya,
I really appreciate the way you have devoted your precious time to comment on my blog but I strongly believe that I am mature enough to decide the flow of my life and undoubtedly, marriage is the most crucial decision in anyone life. It can make or break even a superstar. How can I let anyone else decide it on my behalf?
Actually, I have no problem with my parents choosing it but with the long existing parameters for searching the suitable match. When you are choosing a suitable match under some constraints like caste, religion, region and country then there is no assurance of its diligence. I want me and my generations to come to move out of this prejudiced system and choose their own mates on the parameters which are suitable for them. Since childhood, I never believed in this system though I always stayed in Bihar.
As far as my family is concerned, don’t worry about them. I am a very difficult character and ultimately they want to see me happy ( I knw it well) and my brother -sister: They all are intelligent, qualified and working people and even they will understand that im doing nothing wrong.
I find it ridiculous that today when everyone is struggling to beat the competition in their working -life there is one section of society who still is fighting and killing over castes and religion. Fortunately, my parents are not like that. Their first reaction was anger but I have almost convinced them.
Take care, will keep you posted….
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